Bonnie Ware, a palliative care nurse broke a taboo and was inspired to ask those who were dying their biggest regrets in life. Out of these interviews, she wrote, The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying.
I invite you to look over the 5 top regrets and if they resonate with you make a commitment to let go of these regrets. As Ware suggests, “Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, and choose happiness”.
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realize until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
This came from every male patient that Bonnie Ware nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men she nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
Gosh, doesn’t’ reading these just break your heart?
What makes us convinces ourselves that we can’t have the life we want? What motivates us to work ourselves to the bone? Why can’t we let ourselves be truly happy?
Emotional blocks, trauma, and limiting beliefs are the culprits that hold us back from living our best life. The key is to uncover them, heal from them, and start living a life with no regret.
The great news is that’s possible. If you are ready to start living your best life contact me for a free 30 minute free consultation.